Clue: If you want to make your resolution come true — willpower won’t get you there!
“Willpower is for people who are still uncertain about what they want to do.” – Helia
If willpower is required – there is clearly some type of internal conflict. You want to lose weight, but you also want that beer.
When willpower is required there are two causes:
What do you really want?
If reaching your goal requires willpower, you haven’t figured out what you want. Because once you really make a decision, the internal debate is over.
After you decide what you want, the decision is made. Thus, all future decisions regarding that matter have also been made. No questions.
So, are you serious about this? Until you decide, you’ll be required to use willpower, and will continue making minimal progress.
Are you committed?
When it comes to achieving goals, commitment involves:
Once you truly commit – it’s as though you’ve already succeeded. All doubt and disbelief are gone.
Commitment involves building your life around your goals. Your internal resolve, naked to an undefended and opposing world, is not commitment.
Create conditions that make success inevitable
You will fail to achieve your goals if you don’t change your environment.
An alcoholic who really wants to quit drinking needs to not hang around bars and people drinking, but this analogy applies to all goals!
So consciously create an environment that facilitate your commitments. Actually, if you’re really committed to a goal, this is exactly what you’ll do.
This is how personal growth occurs. We adapt to our environment. Thus, personal growth involves deliberately choosing or creating environments that helps mold us into the person we want to become.
Bill Walsh said, “If your why is strong enough you will figure out how!”
If you’re required to use willpower:
· Your environment is not in alignment with your goals. You haven’t created an environment that facilitates reaching your goals.